Adam and I are reading the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and going through it with some other young married couples. I had heard people talk about their love languages before (they are: Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Gifts), but I had never considered what mine was. After reading through the first few chapters and taking a quiz in the back of the book it is obvious that my love language is quality time. When I announced this to a close friend, she was like yeah, you are all about quality time.
It's not really a life-changing discovery, but I am definitely aware now of how important quality time, especially one on one time is for me in my relationships with others, not just Adam. I have always loved going for walks with my mom, because that was a chance for the two of us to talk. I love meeting girlfriends for coffee or having lunch dates during the week. Any intentional time that I spend with someone or someone spends with me fills up my "love tank"
Adam's love language is physical touch (It seems this might be true of all men). The book says it is natural for us to show love to others through our personal love language, but it's important to know what your spouse's (or friend's) love language is as well. I feel loved when someone spends time with me so I try to spend lots of quality time with Adam, but that won't necessary be love to him if he's looking for physical touch and visa versa. Just some interesting things to think about.
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